August 2015 Monthly Round Up

 AVG Technologies Security Evangelist, Tony Anscombe, explains that the results of a recent Harris Poll survey commissioned by AVG indicate that the cyber safety concerns for youth equipped with internet-enabled devices are all about the parent.

AVG Technologies Security Evangelist, Tony Anscombe, explains that the results of a recent Harris Poll survey commissioned by AVG indicate that the cyber safety concerns for youth equipped with internet-enabled devices are all about the parent.

A recent article by Medical Press released new survey data about the health concerns for youth, featuring sexting and internet safety at the top of the list along with childhood obesity. According to the report, the level of concern about internet safety and sexting ranks higher than youth smoking. The impact of cyber technology on the health and well being of our young “really dominates the story this year,” the report said.

Most parents probably respond to this headline with “no duh!”. This struggle with the myriad issues, complications and opportunities mobile connectivity introduces into family life plays out in homes and communities around the world every day. The headlines featuring risks include ISIS recruiting youth through social media propaganda, teen depression and anti-social behavior linked to over use of social media, sex trafficking and child porn predators, and sexting and the bully problem in cyber-powered school student bodies.

In my interview last week with AVG Technologies security executive, Tony Anscombe, he shared the recent Harris Poll survey findings of a study they commissioned which indicated that the cyber threats for youth are tied to the role of the parent. “The kids are not the problem,” Anscombe said, “It is the parents who do not regulate their own use of smart phones and get educated about what the kids are doing on-line and provide some supervision that leave children vulnerable.”

According to Anscombe, the good news is that the survey also found that the younger the parent, the more engaged and proactive they are about monitoring and supervising their children’s devices. At the time of the interview, the survey data had not yet been released for publication, but he did share that only 41 percent of parents with children aged three to 17 years set up filters for their child’s devices, and of this finding younger parents set up parent controls at twice the rate of older parents. This is a good sign, and also a natural by-product in my mind that tech-savvy kids grow up to be tech-savvy parents.

Relationship trumps technology: Soul talk

Like any innovation, it can be a blessing or a curse depending upon how it is used. In the cyber realm there is no disputing that motive is everything. And as this first generation of digital natives (born after 1990) enter parenthood, the technology will continue to evolve and innovate to capture the hearts and minds of individuals. And one thing will remain at the heart of our well being in a hyper-connected world: relationship and motive. The value of a tech-savvy and non-tech-savvy parent engaged and monitoring the cyber-social realm of their children is about the relationship; it is about investing your attention, your heart and mind, into educating your child about their worth (i.e., they matter because they were born and they are loved unconditionally) and to realize their own inherent capacity to set limits and learn to take responsibility for their own thoughts and actions on and off-line, especially when they are caught in a risky trap or suffering the consequences of risky choices.

For many it is a counter-intuitive truth that cyber safety is not about being tech-savvy. In fact, cyber safety is rather a matter of soul talk, which is fearless. It is the fear-inspired control issues of bullying, addiction and exploitation amplified in the social network that disturb our peace and keep us from connecting to protect, nurture and heal the soul – if we allow it. My faith informs me that when we replace our fear with trust in the thoughts that come from the heart of God, who is Divine Love, then it is possible to truly engage the intellect and will of the child into an open dialogue about how their childhood experiences are informing them – no matter how joyful or disturbing or shame-inspiring.

Teach Your Digital Native to Know Their Own Worth

To that end, BMF is hosting its next symposium Saturday, October 3, 8 a.m. to 1:30 p.m. in Carmichael at the Living Smart Foundation headquarters. The featured theme is: Teach Your Digital Native to Know Their Own Worth.

Objective: Internet porn, sextortion, sex trafficking and the intrusive manipulation of internet consumer advertising can be addressed by teaching children to know their worth as human beings, and how to put the role of sex and money in their world into proper perspective. To learn more and register, go to: Fresh Start Symposium – Teach Your Digital Native to Know Their Own Worth

NOTE: 3 Sponsor spots are available. To learn more about sponsorship, access this flyer: Sponsorship packet.

2015 August Round Up

EVENTS

Fresh Start Family Culture Trainer Certification

Friday, September 11, noon to 4pm in Roseville (near the Fountains)

This special offer registration fee is $35 (by September 10). This trainer certification was created to encourage deep and practical conversations about spirituality and faith around the divine principles of freedom that belong to every human being on the planet and offer tools to help restore family systems. Below is a link to a special offer, $35 for a certification training. Please feel free to invite a colleague. I hope you can make it.

Here is the private link to learn more and register at the special rate: https://www.eventbrite.com/e/fresh-start-for-patients-and-their-families-tickets-18190023851

ABOUT FRESH START

Fresh Start is a crash course to help parents, faith leaders, educators and healers relate to digital natives (born after 1990 and cannot imagine the world without the internet) who are seeking authenticity in a hyper-connected world that features fear and fakery (bullying, addiction and exploitation). It involves seven short lessons about the new reality of growing up and parenting in a cyber-powered world, and four exercises to produce three final products: a family creed, a family motto and a short set of house rules. The objective is to create a family culture wherein the spiritual wisdom of the parent’s own faith can be conveyed in ways that build trust, inspire open communication, and strengthen individual and family resilience.

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Parent training: Fearless Communication with Teens & Young Adults

Workshop (two 90-minute sessions) 

Why: Every child born after 1990 is a digital native, and must learn how NOT to give up their power to the bully, the drug and the device.

When: Monday, September 21, 2015 and Monday September 28, 2015

6:00pm to 7:30pm

Location: Recovery Happens, 3017 Douglas Blvd. Douglas Blvd., 3rd Floor Roseville, CA

Fee: $55.00 includes price of both classes and Fresh Start manual

Learn more and register today: http://tinyurl.com/q6lc8v9 or find more information at www.coreconnectivity.org  or contact Joanna Jullien 916-521-7203

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Parent training: Bully prevention and intervention strategies for home and school

St. Joseph Marello Catholic Church is hosting a parenting seminar on the bully prevention and intervention. This event is ecumenical welcoming all faiths and open to the public at no charge.

Dates: Tuesday Sept. 15, 2015 6:30 – 8 PM and encore on Wed Sept. 16, 10 -11:30AM

You will learn: How children are experiencing a hostile social environment inspired by mobile connectivity, the nature of the crisis this creates for youth, signs that your child is involved or experiencing bullying, and strategies for prevention and intervention.

Location: St. Joseph Marello Catholic Church, 7200 Auburn Folsom Road, Granite Bay, CA 95746 — 916-786-5001 – For more information contact Joanna Jullien jullien@surewest.net.

Parent Tip: Worrying is not the same thing as caring because it is the product of anxiety, a relative of fear. And there is no fear in Divine Love. Put your trust into the thoughts that come from the heart of God, who is love. (1John 4:18).

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2015 August Articles

Cyber Safety for Families with Joanna and Jodie on 103.9FM The Fish Family Morning Show

 Sacramento Cyber Safety Examiner

2015 July Articles

Cyber Safety for Families with Joanna and Jodie on 103.9FM The Fish Family Morning Show

Sacramento Cyber Safety Examiner

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ABOUT:  Banana Moments Foundation is a non-profit education center founded in Roseville, CA to strengthen the parent-child bond in a hyper-connected world. The BMF mission is to restore families with the mustard seed of faith that declares liberty already belongs to the soul because one God grants every human being intelligence and free will and that is power that can never be taken, but is easily surrendered to the bully, the drug or the device. To that end, ten percent of all BMF proceeds are donated to prison ministries. Your Donations are greatly appreciated.

Joanna Jullien (Photo: Christi Benz)

Joanna Jullien
(Photo: Christi Benz)

Joanna Jullien is an author, educator and speaker on strengthening the parent-child relationship in a cyber powered world. She is a mother of two grown sons, the author of The Authority In Me: The Power of Family Life in the Network Culture, produces The Sacramento Cyber Safety Examiner column on Examiner.com, and is the CyberParenting advisor on The Fish 103.9FM. Her new book, A Google World in the Garden of Eden: Five Family-Safe Strategies for Texting and Social Media is now available for PC and all eReader formats including Kindle, Nook, iPad.