2015 October Monthly Round up

Oct 3, 2015 symposium on teaching tech-savvy kids to know their worth is more than sex and money. Carmichael, CA

Oct 3, 2015 symposium on teaching tech-savvy kids to know their worth is more than sex and money. Carmichael, CA

Monday night CNN aired a special feature called “Being 13” hosted by Cooper Anderson, which explored the life of teens in the age of social media. This expose simply reinforces how important it is for parents to maintain an open dialogue with youth about what is happening in their world on and off line.

This is a lot easier said than done for a couple of important reasons. First, mobile connectivity inspires a power crisis as kids can easily believe that access to their device gives them all the knowledge and information they need; hence the role of the parent, teacher or coach – to impart wisdom is – further marginalized. Secondly, in their cyber-social realms, peer communities can become a single point of reference for life wherein there is cruelty and rejection as well as compassion and acceptance. So, when your sense of worth, your source of validation only comes from a cyber-powered peer community, this can inspire feelings of shame as youth experience attacks on their psyche in ever so subtle ways, such as not being tagged in a group photo, and through the outright assault of violent cyberbully campaigns that aim to trample the heart and mind of an individual.

The concerns expressed by the teens in this in this expose centered around feelings of being cut out, completely isolated, and not measuring up to the standards set by the group or society. While the drive to fit in and feel connected is prominent during adolescent years anyway, this drive is intensified and can be used against them in very powerful ways with mobile devices and apps like Twitter, Instagram and SnapChat. Cooper Anderson sums up beautifully how being 13 is different today with social media: “There are so many more witnesses.” When we aim to have a relationship with a crowd, our life focus centers on pleasing people which inspires great anxiety. The simple truth is that self worth is first realized from within and then expressed outwardly; it is that inner knowing that we were created uniquely for a purpose that cannot be found by consulting the crowd or measured in worldly terms (sex, approval ratings, and money).

In my own mind, the greatest crime against humanity happened with the very first lie – ever so subtle, a sophistry which sounds right but is not true – when the inner voice of knowledge suggested “Surely you will not die…” All it takes is one degree out of alignment to miss the mark, the bull’s-eye, that sweet spot in the realm of heart and mind where Divine Love remains, and there is no fear, and which brings perfect peace. I have come to appreciate that lies are subtle, complex, distract us from truth, and disturb the peace; while the truth is simple and brings about peace.

Knowing the truth about your own worth matters in the social network

Last Saturday, parents and counselors met in Carmichael to participate in the Banana Moments Foundation 2015 Fall Symposium on Teaching Your Digital Native to Know Their Own Worth. Now more than ever, teaching youth to know their own worth as human beings is so important because in the social network we all can easily be convinced of things that are not true and focus on things that really don’t matter. We know that the value and dignity of human life cannot be measured by worldly terms, and yet the world can be very convincing. So our challenge is to help our youth learn how to realize their own worth is not earned, but is inherent in their very being as intelligent, caring, creative and feeling human beings.

The speakers included:

  • Marie Hall, founder of Living Smart Foundation, (formerly BeMoneySmartUSA)
  • Keenan Davis, family services/elder care attorney in Davis
  • Janice York, Marriage and Family Therapist in Cameron Park
  • and … yours truly

Thank you to Corporate Sponsors 

Thank you to our Fellowship Sponsors

Debbie Simpson    Gina Maziarz    Joyce Jullien    Beth Montgomery

Scott Montgomery    Bob and Joan Montgomery    Emy Kislanka

 

Below is a recent BMF feature on the topic of the role of money in a life worth living, presented by Marie Hall at the symposium. Look for more features by other speakers in future BMF updates.

What about prosperity, wealth and money in the social network?

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ALERT!

Shame_kills_communication_2Next BMF symposium: Spring 2016 on Shame

Confronting shame as individuals and families in a hyper connected world

Exact date and location is forthcoming

Contact Joanna for sponsorship opportunities: jullien@surewest.net

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UPCOMING EVENTS 

Social media workshop for parents

The role of the parent in healing a suffering child

Fearless Collaboration with Your Adult Child *

  • Fresh Start workshop for helping parents who are challenged by adult children with unresolved issues
  • January 2016  (exact date to be determined)  9am to noon  – $50 (includes Fresh Start workbook)
  • Capital Christian Center in Sacramento
  • *email Joanna for more information: jullien@surewest.net

Fresh Start Trainer Certification for Therapists, Faith Leaders & Educators

*** Speaking Engagements ***

 Social media etiquette for youth

  • October 16
  • Soroptimist in Lincoln (Youth Self Esteem Event)

Teaching youth responsible use of texting & social media

  • October 21
  • Orangevale parent group

Help for parenting in the social network to strengthen/restore families

Stress and the overstressed family

2015 September Features 

Cyber Safety For Families with Joanna and Jodie on 103.9FM The Fish Family Morning Show

Sacramento Cyber Safety Examiner

 

Jodie Stevens, hostess of The Fish Family Morning Show 103.9FM started a blog called, Genuine Life with Jodie Stevens

Jodie Stevens, hostess of The Fish Family Morning Show 103.9FM started a blog called, Genuine Life with Jodie Stevens

Genuine Life with Jodie Stevens

Stories and devotionals about overcoming emotional difficulties like self pity, anger, anxiety, addiction, low self esteem and more.

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ABOUT:  Banana Moments Foundation is a non-profit education center founded in Roseville, CA to strengthen the parent-child bond in a hyper-connected world. The BMF mission is to restore families with the mustard seed of faith that declares liberty already belongs to the soul because one God, the Creator of all humanity, grants every human being intelligence and free will to choose what to believe, and that is power that can never be taken, but is easily surrendered to the bully, the drug or the device. To that end, ten percent of all BMF proceeds are donated to prison ministries. Your Donations are greatly appreciated.

Joanna Jullien (Photo: Christi Benz)

Joanna Jullien
(Photo: Christi Benz)

 Joanna Jullien is an author, educator and speaker on strengthening the parent-child relationship in a cyber powered world. She is a mother of two grown sons, the author of The Authority In Me: The Power of Family Life in the Network Culture, produces The Sacramento Cyber Safety Examiner column on Examiner.com, and is the CyberParenting advisor on The Fish 103.9FM. Her new book, A Google World in the Garden of Eden: Five Family-Safe Strategies for Texting and Social Media is now available for PC and all eReader formats including Kindle, Nook, iPad.