No excuses required: On compassion and forgiveness in the family

No excuses required: On compassion and forgiveness in the family

As an eager student of the human condition, I get really excited about the strategic value of forgiveness as an essential mindset that promotes resilience and healing. And yet forgiveness is so misunderstood; it is often confused with excusing bad or offensive...

Signs you may be a co-dependent parent

Last week Dr. Jessica Rodriguez, CEO of Gateway Corp in Sacramento and OnSite Strategies in Roseville, delivered a talk on the impact of shame and co-dependency in treating addiction as a family problem to counselors and therapists at Sierra Vista Hospital. Rodriguez...
Why today’s teens and millennials may believe older generations don’t care about them

Why today’s teens and millennials may believe older generations don’t care about them

This feature is based upon my presentation to senior citizens gathered in a private home in Lincoln, CA last Friday morning. I am a mom of two grown sons, trained in behavioral science at U.C. Berkeley, who left a career in technology circa 2004 when mobile...
Talking to grade schoolers about the risks of social media and texting

Talking to grade schoolers about the risks of social media and texting

Last Sunday, I met with fourth and fifth graders at St. Joseph Marello Catholic Church to talk about the risks of social media and texting, and how to respond with confidence.  This training was part two of a class on Your Circle of Grace and Social Media, which helps...
Confronting internet porn: Five elements of intimacy every teen needs to know

Confronting internet porn: Five elements of intimacy every teen needs to know

Given this hyper-sexualized social landscape our tech-savvy youth are navigating, I am convinced it is more important than ever that parents have meaningful conversations with youth about their sexuality. And the emphasis needs to on the practical value of prudence...
Tips for talking to teen girls about the attacks on their sexuality

Tips for talking to teen girls about the attacks on their sexuality

(This is a reprint from my Sacramento Cyber Safety Examiner column on Examiner.com) In her book, American Girls: Social Media and the Secret Lives of Teenagers (2015), Nancy Jo Sales describes in intimate and vivid detail the incredibly graphic and degrading...