One of the best parts of my mission is that I get to hang out with incredibly intelligent and caring people, who freely offer insights about what they are learning about human nature in their discipline, be it religious, mental health and addiction treatment, family life services, or education.
Here is a recent article about the role of parents in helping college students with vulnerability to addiction featuring insights from Stephanie Lake, the Alcohol, Tobacco, and Other Drugs Intervention Coordinator at U.C. Davis.
Oct. 14, 2016 Sacramento, CA
Aiming for the bull’s-eye
Every year we hold a fall and a spring symposium with various experts and community leaders to share wisdom and insights for strengthening family relations in this hyper-connected world. We charge a modest fee to offset costs and build our treasury to do more good works. Please allow me to call your attention to the 2016 Fall Core Connectivity Symposium on “The Purpose and Power of Suffering: A Response to Behavioral Health Issues”, Friday, Oct 14, and the strategic importance of this topic for the modern family. (Thank you Kathleen Marco and Clare Brown of Azure Acres IOP for sponsoring the venue, and to Chipotle on El Camino Ave in Sacramento for providing lunch.)
I have learned that behavioral health issues happen because there is a condition of suffering, a response to stress that wants to teach us something. And to that end, my motherhood has been informed by applying my faith (i.e., what I choose to believe about the role of God in my life), in response to raising a child who suffers from anxiety that resulted in large part from a “twisted atlas”
at birth. The childhood behavior issues were obvious, such as arching his back as an infant; melt-downs in classroom or in the supermarket (which we now know were panic attacks); impulsiveness and hyper activity; and impaired capacity to hear and write with a pen. And yet there was no delayed development in the motor skills to speak and touch type intelligently. What was not obvious was that his skull and atlas was out of alignment with the spine and crimped the blood supply to the part of his brain responsible for regulating emotion and sleep, and constrained the back muscles responsible for talking to the brain about regulating emotion and sleep. This condition contributed to the chronic ear infections that impacted hearing and learning, and resulted in internal control issues over sleep and emotion thus inspiring anxiety and panic.
By the time we discovered this diagnosis (he was 20 years old), and started treatment to realign his atlas and back muscles, he was experiencing constant panic attacks and insomnia. And throughout all of the first two decades of his life, he never once said “I can’t”, or “poor me” or “why me?” He has taught me so much about resilience and the more I learn about his struggle and witness his personal journey the more my respect for him as a person grows.
So I have learned that suffering is an invitation to learn something about you, your child, and the human condition as it relates to the healing power of Divine Love; it is the spirit of power and love and sound mind in every human being. This is the hope. Throughout the suffering, my son and I were in agreement that what we learn may help family and friends experiencing a similar thing. And, more importantly, I also tell my son how while I am so sorry for his suffering, I am also blessed by it. Because he allows me to witness his pain and he receives my offer of wisdom, prayer and resources to help him discover the keys to learn and grow from it, I too am learning how to become a better version of myself. Knowing that sharing his pain offers something meaningful to bless me too is a priceless validation for us both.
This to me is the purpose and power of suffering: an invitation to learn and grow in love and cast out fear.
My parenthood journey teaches me that indeed every human being has been designed to be “fault tolerant” – in that we have the power of our own minds to respond to the things in the world that torment the soul; these are the thoughts and experiences that are out of alignment, off the mark or in “error” – they disturb our peace and sense of well-being. In this way, I embrace with great hope the technical archery term for anything outside of “bull’s-eye”, which is to err and is called: “sin”. Sin to me is no longer a “judgy” thing, but an opportunity to recognize and correct what is wrong so there can be healing. It is a process of continuous improvement, for we are all works in progress hopefully learning what it means to love and be loved: fearlessly. This is especially true for family relationships responding to loved ones suffering from addictions, exploitation and abuse. In this regard, we are hopefully all choosing to “aim for the bull’s-eye.”
To that end, the 2016 Core Connectivity fall symposium focuses on the purpose and power of suffering to share insights that enable us to engage digital natives, this millennial and “i” generation, with the confidence that every human being has been given what they need to succeed. For we all know that in their cyber social realm, kids get a lot of input about what it takes for them to succeed and be happy and much of this input can inspire suffering, and behavior issues.
So let us all discover for ourselves and our family, that choosing to “aim for the bull’s-eye” is our power to be “fault tolerant”, and change our course so we can continue to become better versions of ourselves in the bumpy road of our own life journey.
2016 Core Connectivity Symposium on the Purpose and Power of Suffering; A Response to Behavioral Health Issues
Oct. 14, 2016 Sacramento, CA
Fresh Start back-to-school: Raising kids to be smarter than the devices
Core Connectivity offers Fresh Start Family Culture training to help parents exercise control over the home in ways that builds trust so as to instill discipline and empower family members. At this event you will learn:
- The threats and opportunities cyber technology introduces into the family and parent-child relationship
- How to establish age-appropriate boundaries for use of texting and social media
- Conversation tips about touchy subjects like bullying, sex, and drugs that are featured in the social network
- Establish and communicate house rules as empowerment for you and your family
I offer private sessions to help families establish discipline with the use of technology and strengthen bonds. This personalized training also helps create a home environment that promotes healing for individual family members recovering from mental health issues and addictions.
Fresh Start Family – Two 90-minutes sessions. To take an assessment and discuss whether this will meet your family need, contact Joanna at email@example.com
Fresh Start Certification for Educators, Counselors and Therapists
Professionals working with children who suffer from anxiety, depression and addiction, often encounter challenges when parents are uncertain or lack confidence about their leadership role at home to promote healing. Fresh Start principles of family culture will enable your practice to more effectively engage the parent in their role at home to promote healing.
Schedule an appointment to discuss Certification for your practice: contact Joanna
More Community Events!
The Neglected Population in Treatment – Mothers.
The unique challenges mothers in recovery face and what to do about it.
Friday, September 30, 2016
Azure Acres Intensive Outpatient – Santa Rosa
Start Time: 10 am
End Time: 12 pm
Parking Structure Located at
521 7th Street, Santa Rosa
(3 min from our location and the cost is .75 per hour)
Or you’re welcome to park on the street (meter)
Volunteer Opportunity: Training for Drug Take Back Day Survey Taker
Thursday, Sept. 22, 4-5:00 pm
William Jessup University
Classroom Academic Room 205
RSVP for this training by Sept. 20: Christina Ivazes, firstname.lastname@example.org
Recovery Happens Event
Friday, October, 21, 9am to 3:30pm
Location: Lafayette Veterans Memorial Center
$45 per person/ 6 CEUs
Registration ends: Oct 18
Contact: Jon Daily, email@example.com
Restoring positive body image in teens
Sat. November 5, 2016
9am to noon
Location: Larkspur Inn
555 Howe Avenue, Sacramento, CA
RSVP to Dr. McManus firstname.lastname@example.org
About: We are a non-profit education center founded in Roseville, CA to strengthen the parent-child bond in a hyper-connected world. Our mission is to restore families with the mustard seed of faith that declares liberty already belongs to the soul because one God, the Creator of all humanity, grants every human being intelligence and free will to choose what to believe, and that is power that can never be taken, but is easily surrendered to the bully, the drug or the device. To that end, ten percent of all proceeds are donated to prison ministries. Your donations are greatly appreciated. (Donations are payable to Banana Moments Foundation).
Joanna Jullien, Founder & CEO of Core Connectivity
Photo by: Claire Toney, www.joyfulpix.com
Joanna Jullien is an educator and speaker on strengthening the parent-child relationship in a cyber-powered world. Trained in behavioral science at U.C. Berkeley, she is a mother of two grown sons, an author of books on parenting, growing up and family life in the network culture. As a family and technology culture advisor, Joanna has appeared on 103.9FM The Fish, 710AM Keeping Faith in America, 1380AM The Answer, and Examiner.com.