A recent video stirring up conversations about parenting and discipline went viral last month. It was posted by a Virginian dad who made is son run a mile to school every day for a week after he was caught bullying. According to news reports, the dad received a lot of positive comments, and the video got some play on news broadcasts where commentators weighed in with their own opinions about the dad’s choice of discipline.
And while the dad who posted the video had confidence in how he handled his own child, the bigger question remains and is critical for the health of tech-savvy youth today: is parenting a performance for crowd approval? Another child caught bullying might have needed another consequence depending upon the circumstances. Bullying, after all, is learned behavior. Under the right circumstances and the wrong thinking, we are all vulnerable to abusing power.
In this internet age, wherein it is easy to lose yourself cast into the social network, swimming in a sea of judgment, I have found that the most important lesson we can teach youth is how to take responsibility for their own thoughts and actions – as a matter of civil liberty, not as a matter of crime and punishment. This means that we do not have to be perfect, just willing to hold ourselves and our own children accountable, and correct wrong behavior without condemnation. Otherwise the children learn that the crime is to get caught and mobile connectivity makes it easy to hide risky choices and situations.
The discipline of civil liberty learned at home, also prepares students to learn in the classroom. Last month, it was an honor to be included among the workshop presenters at the Second Annual California Student Mental Wellness Conference organized by Wellness Together and the California Department of Education. I delivered a training on “How Parents Can Instill Learning Discipline Among Tech-Savvy Youth.” This training featured a relational model of authority for parents to engage youth as emerging executives with inherent powers of self-determination essential to be good citizens in the classroom and in society. Indeed the best learning mind, is one that takes responsibility for their own thoughts and actions as empowerment. You can read more about this training here…
April 24-April 27, 2018 – Las Vegas
Participants will be able:
1. To identify treatment approaches for successfully treating adolescents and young adults with chemical dependence, trauma, co-occurring disorders and other psychological and behavioral issues.
2. To be able to discern symptoms and characteristics manifested in these disorders and to diminish/correct their negative impact on the client’s interpersonal and family relationships.
3. To identify the impact of trauma, depression and anxiety on youth and best practices for treatment and how to bolster resilience.
4. To identify advances in the assessment of at-risk factors for adolescents and young adults and their treatment.
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Preparing parents to deal with the extreme influence of social media on young hearts and minds
Core Connectivity offers Fresh Start Family Culture training to help parents exercise control over the home, regulate use of technology and empower family members. To book an event at your office, school or church, contact Joanna or 916-521-7203
- Wondering if your child is ready for his or her first smartphone?
- Is cyberbullying terrorizing your child/tween/teen?
- You suspect or have caught your teen using drugs and/or alcohol. Now what?
- Get your family to put down the devices and have face-to-face conversations
- Has internet porn invaded your home?
To learn more, contact Joanna or 916-521-7203
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- Honoring Jon Daily’s legacy of hope
- Why compassion is important for the parent-child bond
- Want to get your teen to put down the device and connect? Search for the hidden meaning of their complaints
- Worried about how social media influences your child? Then focus on the things you can control
- Building youth resilience to violent extremism in the social network
- Three reasons why smartphones are not to blame for the isolation and depression of tech-savvy youth
- How to avoid social media traps: Aim for the bull’s-eye
- Back to school: Helping tech-savvy youth succeed at school
- A response to the heroin epidemic: Remove the cone of silence at home
- How the brains of tech-savvy youth can be hacked, and what to do about it
- Empowering logic to counter ‘13 Reasons Why’ a child commits suicide
- Cannabis 101 for parents: Two truths about today’s pot
- Stop yelling at me! Why your child might not hear what you have to say
- Understanding the role of a parent in a teen’s success
- How to get educated about the apps and devices that interest your child
Mini-Book on Dealing with Challenging Behavior
We are indeed prone to error and fault tolerant.
This mini-book offers fundamental thought leadership to restore parental confidence for people of all creeds and social backgrounds, in the face of the adversity we and our children are experiencing including anxiety, bullying, addictions, and sexual exploitation.
By Joanna Jullien
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About: We are a non-profit education center founded in Roseville, CA to strengthen the parent-child bond in a hyper-connected world. Our mission is to restore families with the mustard seed of faith that declares liberty already belongs to the soul because one God, the Creator of all humanity, grants every human being intelligence and free will to choose what to believe, and that is power that can never be taken, but is easily surrendered to the bully, the drug or the device. To that end, ten percent of all proceeds are donated to prison ministries. Your donations are greatly appreciated. (Donations are payable to Banana Moments Foundation).
Joanna Jullien is an author, educator and consultant on strengthening the parent-child relationship in a cyber-powered world. She is a former technology executive trained in behavioral science at U.C. Berkeley, a mother of two grown sons, and an author of books for practical guidance on parenting, growing up and family life in the network culture. As a family and technology culture advisor, Joanna has appeared on 103.9FM The Fish, 710AM Keeping Faith in America, 1380AM The Answer, and Examiner.com.
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