Last week on the CBS morning show there was a segment on “Uncivility” that featured anthropologist, Helen Fisher, a research fellow at the Kinsey Institute. She explained why we are experiencing so much uncivility which is disturbing everyone.

To explain uncivility, Fisher shared her understanding of human nature as surviving through cooperation which requires civility. She refers to brain science and how the lower regions of the brain which detect and respond to threats can override civil responses which come from the upper regions of the brain. As I understand her explanation (you can see the video here), over time if discourse is hostile and the other person or political opponent is perceived as a threat, or is “demonized,” there can be no discourse nor any common ground to respond to problems and challenges with a sense of solidarity and hope for a better future.

According to CBS morning show host Gail King, a recent poll indicates that 93% of Americans agree that our society has become uncivil and it is a big problem. I perceive uncivility as a bully strategy for total dominance that if unchecked robs us of our capacity for tolerance and cooperation in the home and in the community. Uncivility is insecurity expressing itself (fear emotion) and this hostility produces a culture ruled by extreme emotions rather than by grace and reason.

Equally important, as mobile connectivity and social media hype emotion making hostility an ever present force to be reckoned with, youth are at greater risk for mental health issues including depression and suicidal ideation. So here is a recent feature on why youth need less of our opinions and more wisdom: Get your teen to share hopeless thoughts and experiences with you.

As I understand human nature, it is possible to break cycles of uncivility by teaching and modeling mutual respect and trust at home, in the classroom and in our communities. To learn more about the basics of creating house rules to produce a culture of civility that regulates the use of technology and brings about peace and empowers others, please contact me to book an appointment or schedule a workshop. And check out Fresh Start Family Culture Builder for Household Executives – How to Maintain Open Parent-Child Communication in a Cyber-Powered World.

LET’S WORK TOGETHER

Host an event at your home, church, business or school

Preparing parents to deal with the extreme influence of social media on young hearts and minds

Core Connectivity offers Fresh Start Family Culture training to help parents exercise control over the home, regulate use of technology and empower family members. To book an event at your office, school or church, contact Joanna (be sure to include your return email address) or 916-521-7203

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In-Home Training on Parenting Tech-Savvy Youth

Fresh Start Family – Two 90-minutes sessions with Joanna. Learn about the tools to give you control over the things you can control.

  • Want to argue less and love more in your family relationships?
  • Wondering if your child is ready for his or her first smartphone?
  • Is cyberbullying terrorizing your child/tween/teen?
  • You suspect or have caught your teen using drugs and/or alcohol. Now what?
  • Get your family to put down the devices and have face-to-face conversations
  • Has internet porn invaded your home?

To learn more, contact Joanna (be sure to include your return email address) or 916-521-7203

Worried about how social media influences your child? Then focus on the things you can control

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Reminder

Discipline, not perfection: On being an imperfect parent with imperfect kids

When cyber connectivity hypes everything and inspires anxiety, what will you focus on?

SIGNATURE EVENTS

Mark your calendars for Fall 2018!

father and daughter_tensionTeach your tech-savvy child how to respond to internet porn and sexting

  • Wed Sept 5, 2018 6:30 to 9pm
  • Sierra College Roseville Campus
  • Registration details available soon.
  • To pre-register, contact Joanna and include your return email address.

Creating house rules for technology that your child will want to follow

  • Thurs Sept 13, 9:30am to noon
  • Sierra College Roseville Campus
  • Registration details available soon.
  • To pre-register, contact Joanna and include your return email address.

WHERE YOU WILL FIND ME

Topic: Trauma in the Workplace

Date: Wed. July 11, 2018, 8:30 am to 10:30am

Organization:  Women’s Association for Addiction Treatment

Location: Sacramento, CA

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Date: Thursday, July 19, 2018, 8am to 4pm

Event: Raising Placer Leadership Retreat

Topic: Youth, parents, and civic leaders retreat – team building and communication about creating a culture of wellness for youth and families

Sponsored by: Coalition for Rocklin Youth (an initiative of Raising Placer)

Venue: Johnson Springview Park, Rocklin

To learn more contact: Christina Ivazes, civazes@placer.ca.gov

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Additional features

Books

The Role of a Parent in Healing a Suffering Child:

Insights on the Power of Love and Suffering in the Family

We are indeed fault tolerant.

This mini-book offers fundamental thought leadership to restore parental confidence for people of all creeds and social backgrounds, in the face of the adversity we and our children are experiencing including anxiety, bullying, addictions, and sexual exploitation.

By Joanna Jullien

Available on Kindle and in paper pack

Get your copy! 2017 edition

Fresh Start Family Culture Builder for Household Executives

Kindle Edition

A helpful tool:

Common Sense Media Guide to Non-Violent Video Games

Keep medications out of the hands of youth:

Check out: SaferLock

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