Fifteen years ago when I started this mission to strengthen the parent-child bond in a cyber-powered world my own confidence as a parent was deeply shaken. And while mostly I observed that the children were making good choices despite their peer pressures – still the risks were great. And as they experienced extreme stress with the adult issues (anxiety/depression, bullying/abuse, addictions and sexual exploitation), the youth were left vulnerable and feeling unsupported by parents and adults who did not understand how their lives were informing them, and were not able to relate to their desperate need to feel a sense of secure belonging at home and at school.
So now let’s fast forward fifteen years later.
Today I can sum up this new demand on parents with one word: confidence. And there is a question about what it does mean to be a confident parent when our children are dealing with adult issues hyped as extreme experiences in their online worlds? It is so easy to lack confidence in ourselves and our children unless we make the effort to patrol our thoughts. For the confidence our children need comes from wisdom, not from our fears. And it is easy to confuse our fearful opinions with wisdom. (Read more)
Come see me on October 11, 2019 in Granite Bay! Thank you Newport Academy for sponsoring this breakfast event at the Granite Bay Golf Club.
In the media-centered network culture it is easy to believe things that are not true, and focus on things that do not really matter.. This can curtail parental confidence and increase childhood anxiety and trauma. Help me get some basic tools and insights into the hands of parents so they can more effectively help their children establish their own internal guidance systems to be safe and secure and counter the cyber-powered stressors of growing up with mobile connectivity.
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Tips to regulate the use of technology as a family (PDF Handout)
Hot Topic: To vape or not to vape?
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Private versus Secret
A very important distinction which can be obscured in the social network. Private is when you decide not to disclose information about yourself in order to be safe. Privacy involves discretion and is active boundary setting. In the social media, minors (youth under 18 years of age) should have “private” settings for friends only. And for minors, it is important that they do not expect privacy from parents, whose duty is to provide instruction on personal security. This is one of the top warnings of law enforcement.
Parent tip: Explain to your child that you will respect their privacy by not blabbing their personal business, and also not commenting on everything you see or know about what is happening in their life. Your job is to provide protective cover for them by teaching them how to protect their own privacy online and offline. Secrets, on the other hand, harbor risks (such as inappropriate sexual content and/or contact, cyberbullying and drug and alcohol use).
Explain to your child that they already have power. The trick is to learn how not to give it up to the bully, the drug or the device. As the parent, your job is to help them learn to use their power wisely.
Next… Brave v. Risky
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Events for Your Parent Community
Equipping parents to deal with the extreme influence of social media on young hearts and minds
Core Connectivity offers Fresh Start Family Culture training to help parents exercise control over the home, regulate use of technology and empower family members. To book an event at your office, school or church, contact Joanna (be sure to include your return email address) or 916-521-7203
Private Parenting and Family Life Coaching
Fresh Start Family – Two 90-minutes sessions with Joanna. Learn about the tools to give you control over the things you can control.
To learn more, contact Joanna (be sure to include your return email address) or 916-521-7203
Book an event for your educators, counseling practice or agency providing resources to youth and families. Topics include:
When cyber connectivity hypes everything and inspires anxiety, what will you focus on?
This book offers specific, practical insights to build their own inner resilience for parents dealing with mental and behavioral health issues of tech-savvy youth.
By Joanna Jullien
Available on Kindle and in paper pack
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Keep medications out of the hands of youth: Check out: SaferLock
Helpful thoughts about social media challenges by Common Sense Media
iOS 12 parental controls – review by Common Sense Media