It is true that children learn from our example; by witnessing our reactions to the things that happen in the world, at home and in our communities. In this way I understand resilience as learning how to respond to anti-social and hostile behavior and adversity with confidence.

Check out this week’s feature:

The connection between forgiveness, discipline and resilience

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Core Connectivity Mission

Restore Parental Confidence, Inspire Resilience, and

Empower Families to Strengthen their Bond

 PERSONAL APPEAL

In the media-centered network culture it is easy to believe things that are not true, and focus on things that do not really matter. This can curtail parental confidence and increase childhood anxiety and trauma. Help me get some basic tools and insights into the hands of parents so they can more effectively help their children establish their own internal guidance systems to be safe and secure and counter the cyber-powered stressors of growing up with mobile connectivity.

You can help this cause by:

  • Making a donation to Banana Moments Foundation (non-profit parent of Core Connectivity)
  • Sharing these links to the tips for setting personal boundaries and establishing cyber rites of passage.

 Tips to regulate the use of technology as a family (PDF Handout)

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 How to build trust when you find these apps on your child’s phone

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To vape or not to vape? Thoughts that make you a secure parent, how to handle vaping and more…

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WHERE I AM SPEAKING

  • UDPATE: November 9, 2019, 9am to noon Due to the fires and power shut downs impacting the region, this event will be rescheduled for some time in 2020. If you would like to be notified how to register when the event is re-scheduled, contact Joanna.
  • CEU Event: California Association of Marriage and Family Therapists, Sierra Foothills Chapter
  • Speaker: Joanna will be training on parenting tech-savvy youth to make interpersonal connections, support treatment and advocate for therapeutic outcomes at home
  • Location: Auburn, CA

ABOUT THIS CAMFT EVENT

Educational Goals:
As a result of this Core Connectivity training, clinicians will embrace a new parenting paradigm that recognizes parents and children are in charge of themselves and must learn how to collaborate in order to overcome behavioral health issues and adversity. Participants will:

  1. a) understand how the insights and tools associated with this paradigm shift can help parents strengthen their relationship with teens living media-centric lives, and
  2. b) prepare the participants to educate parents as to how they can support treatment and improve wellness outcomes for teen clients.

Learning Objectives:
After the workshop, participants will be able to:
1. Explain how social media has conditioned us and our children for authority as a relational experience.
2. Summarize the “relational model of authority” for parenting tech-savvy youth.
3. Identify the elements of family culture as tools for collaboration.
4. Demonstrate to parents how to create house rules that foster open communication and build trust.

CAMFT CEU Fees:

  • Licensed CAMFT members: $25
  • Pre-Licensed $15
  • Licensed non-members $35
  • Pre-Licensed $25

Sierra Foothills of CAMFT is approved by California Association of Marriage and Family Therapists to sponsor continuing education for LMFT, LCSW, LPCC, and LEP as well as non-licensed AMFT, ASW, APCC, graduate students and trainees.  SFC CAMFT Provider # is 97723.

This course meets the qualifications for 2 hours of continuing education credit for LMFTs, LCSWs, LPCCs, and/or LEPs as required by the California Board of Behavioral Sciences.

This course also meets the qualifications for 2 hours of attendance credit for Associate Marriage and Family Therapists (AMFT), Associate Social Workers (ASW), Associate Professional Clinical Counselors (APCC), trainees and graduate students as required by the California Board of Behavioral Sciences.

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  • Date: January 16, 2020
  • Event: Insights about love in response to anxiety and addiction as a family affair
  • Sponsor: Sierra Vista Hospital
  • Speaker: Joanna Jullien
  • Venue: Sacramento campus, community room
  • Registration details: forthcoming

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WHERE YOU WILL FIND ME

  • Date: November 7, 2019, 4 to 6PM (3pm to 4pm Executive Committee)
  • Event: Coalition for Placer Youth, Rocklin potluck celebration of DFC federal grant completion (Raising Placer youth substance abuse prevention strategy/raising resilient and healthy youth)
  • Venue: Rocklin Police Department, Rocklin, CA

 

  • Date: November 13, 2019, 8:30 to 10:30AM
  • Event: On Nutrition and Sustainable Sobriety
  • Speaker: Frances Holmes, CNC, IGP, FNLP
  • Organization: Women’s Association for Addiction Treatment, Sacramento Chapter
  • Venue: California Consortium for Addiction Programs and Professionals, Sacramento, CA

 

  • Date: November 14, 2019, 9:30 to 10:30AM
  • Event: Placer Networking Group (Health, Wellness and Addiction Treatment Professionals)
  • Venue: Mimi’s Café in Roseville

 

  • Date: November 14, 2019, 4-5PM
  • Event: Placer Juvenile Resource Fair
  • Venue: Placer County Office of Education, Rocklin, CA

 

  • Date: November 18, 2019, 5-8:30PM (5-6PM Children’s committee)
  • Event: Placer County Mental Health, Drug and Alcohol Advisory Board
  • Venue: CDRC, Public Hearing Room: 3091 County Center Drive, Auburn

 

  • Date: November 21, 2019, 11AM to 1PM
  • CEU Event: Counter Conditioning Therapies for Substance Use Disorders, Targeting Cued Cravings (1.5 CEs)
  • Sponsor and Venue: Sierra Vista Hospital
  • Location: Sacramento, CA
  • (Note: This is a community lunch and learn event sponsored by Sierra Vista Hospital. Please RSVP here  Contact: Jose ‘Martin” Gutierrez Jose.Gutierrez@uhsinc.com)

 

 

  • Date: December 6, 2019, 11:30AM – 2:30PM (open house)
  • Event: Holiday gathering
  • Group: Spotlight mental health and addiction treatment professionals network
  • Venue: DIAMOND DETOX HOUSE 6808 Fleming Avenue Sacramento CA 95828

 

  • Date: December 11, 2019, 9AM
  • Event: Holiday gathering
  • Groups: Women’s Association for Addiction Treatment (WAAT) and Men’s Association for Addiction Treatment (MATT)
  • Venue: Mimi’s Café, Arden Way, Sacramento, CA

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OTHER FEATURES

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Crucial Conversation Concepts

Guidance for conversations with youth in a cyber-powered world, wherein it is easy to believe things that are not true and focus on things that do not really mater.

Power versus Abuse

True power involves self-restraint and self-discipline to not abuse it. People who abuse others are feeling powerless, and seek to feel like they are in control by dominating others. Children who understand the difference between power and abuse will be better equipped intellectually and emotionally to deal with bullies on and off-line. Online conduct rules can put you and your child in the driver’s seat of cyber-powered living. Cyber-safe house rules offer a great way to bond with your teen about being in control of your own life.

Consider this thought: you and your child already have power over your own thoughts and actions in every circumstance. The challenge is to learn how not to give up your power to the bully, the drug or the device.

(Source: Fresh Start Family Culture Builder for Household Executives: How to Maintain Open Parent-Child Communication in a Cyber-Powered World)

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LET’S WORK TOGETHER

Events for Your Parent Community

Equipping parents to deal with the extreme influence of social media on young hearts and minds

Core Connectivity offers Fresh Start Family Culture training to help parents exercise control over the home, regulate use of technology and empower family members. To book an event at your office, school or church, contact Joanna (be sure to include your return email address) or 916-521-7203

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Private Parenting and Family Life Coaching

Fresh Start Family – Two 90-minutes sessions with Joanna. Learn about the tools to give you control over the things you can control.

  • Want to argue less and experience more peace in your family relationships?
  • Wondering if your child is ready for his or her first smartphone?
  • Is cyberbullying terrorizing your child/tween/teen?
  • You suspect or have caught your teen using drugs and/or alcohol. Now what?
  • Get your family to put down the devices and have face-to-face conversations
  • Has internet porn invaded your home?

To learn more, contact Joanna (be sure to include your return email address) or 916-521-7203

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Worried about how social media influences your child? Then focus on the things you can control

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Professional Training

Book an event for your educators, counseling practice or agency providing resources to youth and families. Topics include: 

  • How the sciences of addiction, recovery and faith inform effective prevention strategy
  • A parent’s guide for dealing with mental and behavioral health issues
  • Embracing “the addict” as an agent for positive change in the family
  • Keeping tabs on your family’s social media hangouts
  • Cyberbullying & radicalization of youth into violent ideologies
  • Talking about drugs and drug abuse in social media
  • Family-safe conversations about internet porn and sexting

 Learn more about Joanna

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 Reminder

Discipline, not perfection: On being an imperfect parent with imperfect kids

When cyber connectivity hypes everything and inspires anxiety, what will you focus on?

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Resources

The Role of a Parent in Healing a Suffering Child:

Insights on the Power of Love and Suffering in the Family

This book offers specific, practical insights to build their own inner resilience for parents dealing with  mental and behavioral health issues of tech-savvy youth.

Creating House Rules for Technology that

Any Family Can Follow!  Get your copy!

Fresh Start Family Culture Builder for Household Executives

Kindle Edition

  • Seven lessons on the impact of the network culture on youth, parenting and family life
  • Four exercises to develop a renewed perspective on the challenges of modern life
  • Three final products to regulate the use of technology and foster human connection at home: Family creed, family motto and a short set of house rules

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Helpful tools:

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Cyber Safety for Families (Videos)

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About:  We are a non-profit education center founded in Roseville, CA to strengthen the parent-child bond in a hyper-connected world. Our mission is to restore families with the mustard seed of faith that declares liberty already belongs to the soul because one God, the Creator of all humanity, grants every human being intelligence and free will to choose what to believe, and that is power that can never be taken, but is easily surrendered to the bully, the drug or the device.

Peace on earth begins with peace at home.

Core Connectivity – A Foundation to Empower Families

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Joanna Jullien, Founder & CEO of Core Connectivity
Photo by: Victoria Hatch

Joanna Jullien is an author, educator and consultant on strengthening the parent-child relationship in a cyber-powered world. She is a former technology executive trained in behavioral science at U.C. Berkeley, a mother of two grown sons, and an author of books for practical guidance on parenting, growing up and family life in the network culture. As a family and technology culture advisor, Joanna has appeared on 103.9FM The Fish, 710AM Keeping Faith in America, 1380AM The Answer, and Examiner.com.