These next two features address the disconnect in the parent child bond that has been amplified by social media and fuels anxiety and hostility at home. I have studied how the pedophiles and commercial interests have engaged youth with the aim to manipulate and exploit them, so that parents can learn how to engage and empower them.
The disconnect in the parent-child bond involves perception. It is the perception by our children that parents can never understand what they are experiencing in their lives, nor are they capable of understanding and accepting them. And it is also a perception by parents that children are not capable of learning how to correct themselves if they fall into a trap and how to become resilient in the face of all the threats they face intensified online, including anxiety and depression, bullying, addiction and sexual exploitation. Hence there is perceived a chasm of great distance and isolation in the parent-child bond.
These two features address this chasm by offering guidance on how to be present and instill discipline with tech-savvy youth, and how to respond to a rebellious child.
Check out these features:
- Wherever you are, be there: Parenting attention in the home
- When your child rejects parental authority: Insights about connecting and correcting a rebellious child
Core Connectivity Mission
Restore Parental Confidence, Inspire Resilience, and
Empower Families to Strengthen their Bond
In the media-centered network culture it is easy to believe things that are not true, and focus on things that do not really matter. This can curtail parental confidence and increase childhood anxiety and trauma. Help me get some basic tools and insights into the hands of parents so they can more effectively help their children establish their own internal guidance systems to be safe and secure and counter the cyber-powered stressors of growing up with mobile connectivity.
You can help this cause by:
- Making a donation to Banana Moments Foundation (non-profit parent of Core Connectivity)
- Sharing these links to the tips for setting personal boundaries and establishing cyber rites of passage.
Tips to regulate the use of technology as a family (PDF Handout)
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WHERE YOU WILL FIND ME
- Date: Wed. 03/11/20 8:30am to 10:30am
- Event: The Neurobiology of Secure Attachment and its relationship to addiction
- Speaker: Barbara Field, MFT
- Location: CCAPP office, 2400 Marconi Avenue, Ste. B
Sacramento, CA, 95821
- Date: Thurs. 03/12/20 9:30am to 10:30am
- Event: Placer Wellness Networking Group
- Location: Mimi’s Café in Roseville, CA
- On the need for spiritual and emotional intelligence in being a parent today (part two): The authority to love
- On the need for spiritual and emotional intelligence in being a parent today (part one)
- Hindsight 2020: Make this a year of creating a culture of connection at home
- How parents model resilience
- Five habits of anxiety-proof families in a cyber-powered world
- Parent screentime
- Crucial conversations about social media use: Brave versus risky
- Why devices are not to blame for the lack of connection with your child
- Conquer the fear of losing your child to screentime
- The purpose of stress in your child’s life and their happiness
Crucial Conversation Concepts
Guidance for conversations with youth in a cyber-powered world, wherein it is easy to believe things that are not true and focus on things that do not really mater.
Power Paradigm Shift
What you choose to believe about your personal power especially in the face of adversity matters now more than ever. Mobile connectivity in the hands of youth has inspired a power crisis for parents and children, and intensified suffering experiences. In a hyper-connected world, the emotions are amplified high and low. There is more disturbing of the peace (think: cyberbullying, sexting and addiction). Therefore, home must be a safe place to unpack what is happening, especially those experiences that inspire shame, guilt and fear. Indeed, there is a new demand on being a kid and parenting: building trust is a must!
- What does trust look like at home?
- Are we all distracted with busy-ness and devices?
- Are we living alone (isolated) but together?
- Are parents just housekeepers paying the bills?
- What does it mean to be home anymore?
- Consider the crime and punishment mentality of the world inspires anxiety, while a culture of discipline with forgiveness and grace at home inspires peace, belonging and empowerment
This is the beauty of the power crisis mobile connectivity introduces into the parent-child bond. In order to be an effective parent we must learn to engage the intellect and will of the child to instill discipline. It is soul talk which strengthens resilience.
In this regard, there is a call to action for parents to educate their children about the spiritual wisdom of their chosen faith (be it Christian, Judaism, Muslim, Buddhist or atheist) as an executive movement at home – starting with the mustard seed of faith that makes a free society possible in the first place. That one God, the one benevolent Creator, grants every individual intelligent life and free will, and that is power over your own thoughts and actions that cannot be taken, but is easily surrendered to the bully, the drug or the device. Therefore an atheist has the right to declare there is no God, because a handful of people acted on this wisdom thought that God said they can choose what to believe.
Therefore, do you believe this to be true for you and your child?
If a child falls into a trap, such as depression, addiction or sexting does that make your child a lost soul, criminal and/or a slut? Well, that depends upon what you choose to think about your child, and more importantly what does your child think about who they are? Ultimately our behavior reflects our beliefs about being secure in belonging to something bigger and safe than what the world offers. So when our children are having a human experience that is well beneath their dignity, are you agreeing with the condemnation they are experiencing? Or are you agreeing with the wisdom thought, a belief in our humanity that declares your child is a magnificent blessing; he or she is a divine idea in the mind of God whose potential can never be taken away.
When you hold fast in our own mind this thought that “my child is magnificent” while you are witnessing painful hostile behavior and its consequences, this is you fostering resilience. It is this resilience that declares all behavior is learned, and we have inherent power to choose to learn how to become better versions of ourselves no matter our present and past circumstances.
Other topics for crucial conversations:
(Sources: Fresh Start Family Culture Builder for Household Executives: How to Maintain Open Parent-Child Communication in a Cyber-Powered World and The Role of a Parent in Healing a Suffering Child: Insights about the Power of Love and Suffering in the Family)
LET’S WORK TOGETHER
Events for Your Parent Community
Equipping parents to deal with the extreme influence of social media on young hearts and minds. Core Connectivity offers Fresh Start Family Culture training to help parents exercise control over the home, regulate use of technology and empower family members. To book an event at your office, school or church, contact Joanna (be sure to include your return email address) or 916-521-7203
Private Parenting and Family Life Coaching
Fresh Start Family – Two 90-minutes sessions with Joanna. Learn about the tools to give you control over the things you can control and strengthen your role as a trusted resource for guidance.
- Want to argue less and experience more peace in your family relationships?
- Wondering if your child is ready for his or her first smartphone?
- Is cyberbullying terrorizing your child/tween/teen?
- You suspect or have caught your teen using drugs and/or alcohol. Now what?
- Get your family to put down the devices and have face-to-face conversations
- Has internet porn invaded your home?
To learn more, contact Joanna (be sure to include your return email address) or 916-521-7203
Professional Training Book an event for your educators, counseling practice or agency providing resources to youth and families. Topics include:
- How the sciences of addiction, recovery and faith inform effective prevention strategy
- A parent’s guide for dealing with mental and behavioral health issues
- Embracing “the addict” as an agent for positive change in the family
- Keeping tabs on your family’s social media hangouts
- Cyberbullying & radicalization of youth into violent ideologies
- Talking about drugs and drug abuse in social media
- Family-safe conversations about internet porn and sexting
- Discipline, not perfection: On being an imperfect parent with imperfect kids
- When cyber connectivity hypes everything and inspires anxiety, what will you focus on? Your greatest fear? Or your greatest hope?
This book offers specific, practical insights to build their own inner resilience for parents dealing with mental and behavioral health issues of tech-savvy youth.
Get your copy!
- Seven lessons on the impact of the network culture on youth, parenting and family life
- Four exercises to develop a renewed perspective on the challenges of modern life
- Three final products to regulate the use of technology and foster human connection at home: Family creed, family motto and a short set of house rules
- Keep medications out of the hands of youth: Check out: SaferLock
- Helpful thoughts about social media challenges by Common Sense Media
- iOS 12 parental controls – review by Common Sense Media
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Positive Parenting Workshop
April 14, 2020 through May 26, 2020 (Tuesday evenings) 6:30pm to 8pm
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About: We are a non-profit education center founded in Roseville, CA to strengthen the parent-child bond in a hyper-connected world. Our mission is to restore families with the mustard seed of faith that declares liberty already belongs to the soul because one God, the Creator of all humanity, grants every human being intelligence and free will to choose what to believe, and that is power that can never be taken, but is easily surrendered to the bully, the drug or the device.
Peace on earth begins with peace at home.
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Joanna Jullien is an author, educator and consultant on strengthening the parent-child relationship in a cyber-powered world. She is a former technology executive trained in behavioral science at U.C. Berkeley, a mother of two grown sons, and an author of books for practical guidance on parenting, growing up and family life in the network culture. As a family and technology culture advisor, Joanna has appeared on 103.9FM The Fish, 710AM Keeping Faith in America, 1380AM The Answer, and Examiner.com.
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