During this COVID19 shelter-in-place response, the most important thing we can teach our youth is how to be aware, well-informed and unafraid.

Let me offer a real-life example. The other day while on a long walk with my husband, a young boy riding his bike was approaching us on the sidewalk. He was about 13 years old. Approximately 200 yards before we caught up to him, he stopped, pulled his bike over leaving as much distance as he could so we could walk past him unhindered. We made eye contact. We smiled. I thanked him and asked him to give his mom a big hug from me. “Sure thing,” he said as we continued walked past him.

That gesture by this young man made me feel so loved. And I am so grateful for all the moms and dads that teach their children how to care for and be respectful of one another.

The media doesn’t hype this truth about what is really going on in homes and neighborhoods across America. There are more people of good will who are not in the spotlight, and their presence is especially felt in this moment of crisis as there is a measure of peace and patience as we as a society learn how to respond to this pathogen. Thanks be to God.

Still, it is difficult to stay positive with so much uncertainty of a pandemic that puts life and health at risk. Worse than the virus is the anxiety and fear if we allow it to fester unchecked.

Check out this feature

Learning how to fear well: Teach your child how to have

a disciplined response to a pandemic

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Strategies to deal with anxiety and power struggles at home

  • Three one-hour private sessions via Zoom.
  • Set family goals customized to your current situation and family dynamics.
  • Assess your values, house rules, expectations, beliefs, especially with respect to the impact devices have on family relations.
  • Assess your own response to what is happening in the world and with your children.
  • Receive practical, high-impact guidance on marshalling your family beliefs, values and establish norms to improve communication and address any behavior issues with confidence.

Who is this for?

  • Parents who work from home as part of the shelter-in-place order. You can use this time to strengthen your role as a trusted resource for your tech-savvy child or teen, who is going to be spending more time online for classes and also to be social.
  • Families dealing with endless and escalating power struggles over the amount of time on the device.
  • Parents with children in treatment for addiction and recovery counseling. One of the greatest challenges is dealing with your own anxiety in response to your child’s plight. This program will help you gain a more positive and constructive perspective about your child’s condition, and nature of addiction and recovery as the part of the human condition, and the simple things you can do at home to create a culture of transparency and trust to support sobriety, recovery and foster resilience.

CONTACT JOANNA

  • To learn more and book your appointments, and/or
  • To make a referral. (This service is private pay with a sliding scale.)

CONTACT JOANNA

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RESOURCES

FROM CORE CONNECTIVITY PARTNERS & COLLABORATORS

 

Resilience: Taking back your power from stress

Special Myndzen Service (Complimentary):

There’s no doubt we’re currently challenged with a great deal of uncertainty and change; much of what’s happening is outside of our control. Her goal for this group is to become a refueling station in reminding us (and showing us how) it’s possible to not only get through this crisis without burning out, but further more to use it as a catalyst to build resilience and change our mind, brain and life for the better.

Video (4 minutes): The Myndzen connection between power and stress

If you would like to learn how to work with your mind to reduce your stress level effectively and participate in Tzeli’s online FREE online stress management coaching group, join her community by clicking on this link:  http://bit.ly/JoinMyndZen

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Class of 2020 – High School Seniors Support Group

Zoom Meeting with Recovery Happens, every Friday 1pm to 2pm. Go to www.zoom.com and enter ID: 4236595845

Contact: Amy Rose amyrose@recoveryhappens.com

This support group is organized by the staff at Recovery Happens who understand intimately the struggles of today’s youth. In light of the pandemic isolation and loss of high school senior events such as proms, sports events, and graduation this group is organized to help students come together and share how they are impacted by the shelter in place order and encourage one another.

If you are a parent of a high school senior, consider this group as a very positive way for your teen to engage with others going through the same experience and find ways to make the best of this global event.

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Young People’s Virtual 12-Step  Support Group

From The  Pathway Program

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Core Connectivity Mission

Restore Parental Confidence, Inspire Resilience, and

Empower Families to Strengthen their Bond

 PERSONAL APPEAL

In the media-centered network culture it is easy to believe things that are not true, and focus on things that do not really matter. This can curtail parental confidence and increase childhood anxiety and trauma. Help me get some basic tools and insights into the hands of parents so they can more effectively help their children establish their own internal guidance systems to be safe and secure and counter the cyber-powered stressors of growing up with mobile connectivity.

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Insights about the love of God in our humanity

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Follow @authoritytolove on Facebook (thought for the day)

To receive my “thought for the day” via email, contact me, Joanna

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Crucial Conversation Concepts

Guidance for conversations with youth in a cyber-powered world, wherein it is easy to believe things that are not true and focus on things that do not really mater.

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Problems versus Predicaments

Some of the best lessons in parenting I gleaned from my experience as a business executive. During the Y2K transition (the new millennium date change from 1999 to 2000 was perceived as a major issue for computer systems), I managed a global support service operation for publishing systems and there was a resource challenge to conduct the Y2K support and routine maintenance. One of the most helpful concepts to lead global operations through this crisis I found in the book, Management of the Absurd, Paradoxes in Leadership, by Richard Farson, which advocated to business leaders that control is an illusion, and argued that managers too often try to exert control by solving problems when not everything is a problem to be solved.

Farson presented an important distinction between a problem and a predicament. A problem could be solved; a predicament required coping because there is not a solution possible. So with this understanding among the clients and staff we managed the Y2K situation as a temporary crisis – it was a predicament, not a problem; and everyone agreed to shift resources to Y2K as a coping mechanism through the transition into 2000. And yet, had we treated the Y2K resource constraint as a problem to be solved, we would have failed – there was no “solution” possible under those circumstances.

Let’s examine a more germane example for parents.

When my youngest was an infant, we had moved into a two-story home. Rather than set up gates to keep him from falling, I supervised, instructed and coached my infant son to crawl down the stairs on his stomach, feet first. He never experienced a spill down the stairs at our home or anywhere else for lack of skill and knowledge. Had I relied upon the gate as “the solution” to keep him safe, the chances of his having a serious accident were greater – that the gate would not be securely latched, or worse yet, he could have fallen downstairs somewhere else because there were no gates (we cannot baby proof every environment).

The worry of the baby falling down the stairs was a temporary situation that did not require him to walk; it did require him to use whatever means he could master to navigate stairs safely. While I am not advising parents to not use gates (there may be reasons why you need to use them), this example demonstrates that it is also important that your child is able to master safety for herself whenever possible, as early as possible. Especially in the network culture.

Discussion question:

What is the difference between authoritarian (i.e., “I am in control of you”) and authoritative (i.e., “I am in charge of teaching you how to be in control of yourself”) parenting styles? How can your parenting style empower or discourage children to assume healthy responsibility for their own thoughts and actions on and off-line?

Other topics for crucial conversations:

Brave versus Risky

(Source: Fresh Start Family Culture Builder for Household Executives: How to Maintain Open Parent-Child Communication in a Cyber-Powered World)

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LET’S WORK TOGETHER via teleconference

Events for Your Parent Community

Mobile phone teleconference appEquipping parents to deal with the extreme influence of social media on young hearts and minds

Core Connectivity offers Fresh Start Family Culture training to help parents exercise control over the home, regulate use of technology and empower family members. To book an event at your office, school or church, contact Joanna (be sure to include your return email address) or 916-521-7203

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Private Parenting and Family Life Coaching

Woman video chattingFresh Start Family – Two 90-minutes sessions with Joanna. Learn about the tools to give you control over the things you can control and strengthen your role as a trusted resource for guidance.

  • Want to argue less and experience more peace in your family relationships?
  • Wondering if your child is ready for his or her first smartphone?
  • Is cyberbullying terrorizing your child/tween/teen?
  • You suspect or have caught your teen using drugs and/or alcohol. Now what?
  • Get your family to put down the devices and have face-to-face conversations
  • Has internet porn invaded your home?

To learn more, contact Joanna (be sure to include your return email address) or 916-521-7203

Worried about how social media influences your child? Then focus on the things you can control

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Book an event for your educators, counseling practice or agency providing resources to youth and families. Topics include:

  •  How the sciences of addiction, recovery and faith inform effective prevention strategy
  • A parent’s guide for dealing with mental and behavioral health issues
  • Embracing “the addict” as an agent for positive change in the family
  • Keeping tabs on your family’s social media hangouts
  • Cyberbullying & radicalization of youth into violent ideologies
  • Talking about drugs and drug abuse in social media
  • Family-safe conversations about internet porn and sexting

 Learn more about Joanna

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 Reminder

Discipline, not perfection: On being an imperfect parent with imperfect kids

When cyber connectivity hypes everything and inspires anxiety, what will you focus on?

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FIVE STEPS TO CONNECT WITH YOUR TECH_SAVVY KID

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This book offers specific, practical insights to build their own inner resilience for parents dealing with  mental and behavioral health issues of tech-savvy youth.

ORDER YOUR COPY HERE:

The Role of a Parent in Healing a Suffering Child:

Insights on the Power of Love and Suffering in the Family

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MAKE HOME THE PLACE TO BE HAPPY & WELL

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Purchase your 2017 Edition of Fresh Start and create a family culture of faith and hope.

Fresh Start Family Culture Builder for Household Executives

  • Seven lessons on the impact of the network culture on youth, parenting and family life
  • Four exercises to develop a renewed perspective on the challenges of modern life
  • Three final products to regulate the use of technology and foster human connection at home: Family creed, family motto and a short set of house rules

 

Helpful tools:

Keep medications out of the hands of youth: Check out: SaferLock

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Helpful thoughts about social media challenges by Common Sense Media

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About:  We are a non-profit education center founded in Roseville, CA to strengthen the parent-child bond in a hyper-connected world. Our mission is to restore families with the mustard seed of faith that declares liberty already belongs to the soul because one God, the Creator of all humanity, grants every human being intelligence and free will to choose what to believe, and that is power that can never be taken, but is easily surrendered to the bully, the drug or the device.

Peace on earth begins with peace at home.

Core Connectivity – A Foundation to Empower Families

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Joanna Jullien, Founder & CEO of Core Connectivity
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Joanna Jullien is an author, educator and consultant on strengthening the parent-child relationship in a cyber-powered world. She is a former technology executive trained in behavioral science at U.C. Berkeley, a mother of two grown sons, and an author of books for practical guidance on parenting, growing up and family life in the network culture. As a family and technology culture advisor, Joanna has appeared on 103.9FM The Fish, 710AM Keeping Faith in America, 1380AM The Answer, and Examiner.com.